
REVELATION 2:4-5: “But I have this complaint against you. You don’t love me or each other as you did at first! Look how far you have fallen! Turn back to me and do the works you did at first. If you don’t repent, I will come and remove your lampstand from its place among the churches.” NLT
OBSERVATION: Do you remember what your life was like when you first received Jesus Christ as your personal Savior and Lord? Do you remember the love you felt for Jesus and for your new brothers and sisters in Christ? Everything was new! You looked at people differently! You did not see the flaws in people; you saw their God-given potential!
I love it when I read through the Bible each year, and two Scriptures collide. They are addressing different things but are focused on the same core truth. I experienced this as I completed the book of Malachi, the last book in the Old Testament, and began the book of Revelation, the last book in the New Testament.
“Here is another thing you do. You cover the Lord’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. You cry out, “Why doesn’t the Lord accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows.” (Malachi 2:13-14 NLT)
In both of these references, something died! Although the church in Ephesus was going through the motions of faithfulness, they were so caught up in the business of ministry that they forgot how to love. Although the Israelites were offering their offerings to the Lord, their service had become mere rote. They had lost their compassion and love. This was evident in how the men were treating their wives!
Our love for the Lord and our love for our wives are very similar. In fact, Paul uses them to illustrate how a husband and wife are to love one another.
“For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church… In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church.” (Ephesians 5:22-23, 28-29 NLT
Our love for Jesus Christ should guide our love for one another. Our love for one another flows out of our love for Jesus Christ. When our love for Jesus grows cold, our love for our spouse does too. The church in Ephesus was just like the Israelites that had returned to Jerusalem. They were busy with the routine, but they had lost the reason they were doing it.
That reason is Love!
“If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.” (1 Corinthians 13:1-3 NLT)
So what is the answer? It is a matter of investment and focus. I am not talking about more busyness. I am talking about quality time. When I first gave my life to Jesus Christ, all I wanted to do was read my Bible, go to church, and share my faith. As I did this, my love for Jesus and for others overflowed.
When I first met my wife, all I wanted was to spend quality time with her. We did not have all the other responsibilities of life, so every moment was spent invested in each other. I spent time planning things that I knew would bring her joy. I could not wait to be with her. I was in love!
Now, add jobs, kids, mortgages, car payments, church responsibilities, and just the everyday stress of life. What is the first thing to leak from our relationship with the Lord and with our spouse? It is the quality time we spent in our days of our first love. We may go through the motions, but they are motions devoid of the love and affection we once had. If we continue this way, without any course correction, we are in danger of shipwrecking both our relationship with Jesus Christ and our marriage!
What does Jesus call us to do?
“Look how far you have fallen! Turn back to me and do the works you did at first. If you don’t repent, I will come and remove your lampstand from its place among the churches.” (Revelation 2:5 NLT)
Do the works you did at first! Don’t be caught in the ‘Martha Cycle’ of so much activity that you forget to love. Spend quality time with Jesus! Sit at His feet and listen to His word. Spend quality time with your spouse. Reestablish a date night. Share in the activities they love to do and plan days where it is just the two of you, enjoying each other, apart from all the stresses of life.
Love does not cultivate itself. But without love, we really have nothing. As I read these verses from Revelation and Malachi, I feel compelled to take an inventory of my life. Have I left my first love? Have I neglected the wife of my youth? Am I just a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal?
Heavenly Father, create in me a clean heart. Renew within me a new spirit. Restore me with the love and joy of Your salvation. May my heart be renewed in my love for You, for others, especially my love for my wife!
In Jesus’ Name!








